With everything that has been going on with proposition 8 in California, there seems to be some strong opinions regarding the issue of homosexuality. In the last year I have taken an interest in the psychology surrounding this issue so I wanted to share some alternative views on this topic.
I am seeing a lot of biased absolutes coming from both sides of this argument. Many are saying that homosexuality is purely genetic while others are saying it is a plain and simple choice. What if it is neither. There are parts of who every person is that are inborn such as temperament and certain personality traits, however there is much more that is a result of our environment and our perception of various events in our lives. At birth all children regardless of gender are attached to their mothers. However, at the age of two or three males need to make a transfer to the same gender parent in order to develop normally. If no father is available another man can fill this role. If this shift is not made because a boy feels rejected (sensitive temperament) by the same sex parent or never finds a man to connect with, he can remain attached to his mother and may begin to identify with her feeling that he relates to women, expecially his mother, better than he does men. If this is not resolved then the young man will not make important bonds with same sex peers and feels rejected as if he does not belong to the world of men, however, there is an inborn knowledge that he is a man and wants those associations. This confusion becomes a fascination and intense study of the same sex as the boy tries to figure out "what's wrong with me?" During puberty when most boys become curious about the opposite sex these young men continue being fixated on the same gender and those feelings of inadequacy and longing to be accepted become sexualized. They are confused and conflicted by these feelings but because society tells them that they were born that way they finally decide that they have no choice at happiness unless they accept these feelings and live a homosexual lifestyle. Therefore this issues is neither choice nor purely genetic but a complicated series of unresolved trauma. If addressed this trauma can be resolved and the same gender attractions can be overcome. There is a huge population of people working to overcome this and many who have and live happy heterosexual lives.
There it is. I feel very strongly about this and I am beginning to feel that treatment of this issue, for those struggling with this but do not want to live a homosexual lifestyle, is the direction I would like to take my career in the future. I know that there are people who strongly disagree with this theory, however, I think it is important for people to be informed of other possibilities asside from what the liberal media presents. If you want to read a little more about this visit narth.com.
Marc Overmars
4 years ago
8 comments:
Interesting. I strongly disagree. But I love you!!!!
I think it is overslimpistic to say that there is one cause. perhaps some people do turn gay because of what you describe, but I don't think that is by any means the only path. In my opinion, everyone is on a spectrum of sexuality. some people are born 100% heterosexual and some are born 100% homosexual. the rest of us fall somewhere in the middle.
Sorry Tay, I don't agree with you. I don't think you are 100% born one way or the other, but that you might have tendencies to become homosexual and that circumstances in your life can influence you one way or the other.
Danny, I think it is great what you want to do because I think there are probably a lot of people out there on the fence that you can help.
I agree very much with what you said about the media giving many youth with confused feelings the idea that they must be gay and there's nothing they can do about it. I think genetics certainly plays a role, but it is not absolute. Some people's genetics will make them alcoholics after a few drinks, while others aren't so easily addicted. This doesn't mean that alcoholics have no choice but to remain alcoholics. Similarly, I can accept that some people are born with hormones that encourage attraction to the same sex. Add environmental effects and you get a wide variety of different temperaments. For some, homosexual feelings just might be a trial they were given in this life, but it doesn't mean they are forced to succumb to it. Everyone CAN overcome their trials and weaknesses; this is the point of life. In the end, of course, none of us will ever have any idea about the true causes of homosexuality and we'll never know what others are feeling. To tell someone who wishes to change that change is impossible, however, is fallacious and contemptible.
thats cool Danny. And all these comments are interesting.. :)
Usually I don't like to read long blog updates without a picture, but this one is good!
I like this. I like the way you think, and I really like that this is your direction of choice. Good work.
Very interesting. I am also very interested in the psychology behind things and believe that there is usually something more to all "issues" like homosexuality than just "that is how they are born." I have a very similar perspective. I do not think God just puts gay people here and hopes they can deal with it. I think there is so much more concerning environment, a child's idea of what sexuality is (coming from how they are taught and experiences they have (sexual abuse, promiscuity), and acceptance of their personality traits). I want to go think about yours more, cause coming from someone who studied all the theories on childhood, this is very intriguing. Thanks for sharing such a bold opinion on such a taboo topic to talk about.
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